A blog about living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Using I instead of We

 I've noticed that many people who talk about their experiences living with DID that many refer to themselves as "we" vs "I". For myself, it is still to weird and difficult to use "we" in place of "I", like the British Monarchs used to use. They would say things like "We are not amused" and quite often speak of themselves in plural. 

As I am still learning about my System, and how each part of it connects to another, I still find it weird and sometimes off putting, especially when I am discussing it with others.
I do have to say that most of the people, especially my mom, take it very well and do not look at me like I have three heads and sixteen eyes. And of course there are those that have questions, that I try to answer with my limited vocabulary and very rudimentary understanding of my own condition. 

While talking on the phone with my mother, I was explaining some of the Alters and how they present themselves, and how each one has its own comorbidity, and things that they like or dislike. One of the Alter's (Johnathan Meyers) is very attentive and dutiful and has an almost "Butler-esq" sense to him.  And that stationary is almost like pornography that he gets very excited at the idea of buying new pens, paper, office supplies, and other items.


My mom said, "that doesn't sound like my son at all." And I still feel as if it is all just made up. Like there is no way that someone can have multiple personalities and everything that goes along with DID.

One of the many things that I wish the System could and would do was spell better, and also hyper focus on weight loss, and household chores. However, this is something that I am in the process of working on with one of my therapists. 

Certain things that are seemingly easy of others like self-care maintenance, and household chores are somewhat triggers for me. Cleaning was used as a form of punishment. And so now when I begin to try and clean, it feels like I am in trouble. So, I do something called Body Doubling (an ADHD trait), which is where you have someone on the phone with you who is talking with you while also keeping your mind off the fact that you are preforming a task. I talk a lot on the phone and when I know it's going to be a long conversation then I almost automatically go into cleaning mode. Which can be distracting for some people, because as I'm cleaning, they themselves are having to go through their things and make sure that it doesn't belong to anyone else in the home, and if it is actually ok to throw away.

A very labor-intensive endeavor to say the least. And because I live alone, and never have anyone come into my house, there is very little cleaning that gets done. 

So yeah, for now I feel that it's best that I use "I" instead of "we" for now. However, the DID sub-reddit that I belong to, I will switch up my vocab and use terms that others use. But for now, it's just a day at a time lesson. 

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